The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women Scientific Research Discovery Explains : The Surprising Reason Men Tend To Pick Certain Women (And why they constantly reject or neglect others). All her life, Tanya had constantly been told she was "fantastic ", "A great catch ", "inspiring ", and "perfect wife material" by the guys she'd dated ... But all those seemingly encouraging and warm words actually made her feel worse. Because the reality is:. Despite how fantastic they CLAIMED she was, they still weren't PICKING her for the long-term. For Tanya, this meant that those guys were either lying to her, or there was something else wrong with her: something so repulsive that they couldn't picture themselves continuing with her. "It made me feel useless " she explained to us. "Why am I just not sufficient for the men that seem perfect for me ?". "All I want is for somebody to love me"